I am plagued with self doubt. I always have been. …
As you may know, this year is my year of trying to be more positive. To try and really focus on living life and not coasting through it and to have a real life philosophy. And that saying above is now my new mantra. It has really struck a chord with me. What do you think of it?
I have read a few things recently that have involved people being hurt by words said by another person. Often unintentionally, but the words have hurt nonetheless. And what they remember of that conversation weeks, months, even years later is how it left them feeling. In fact they have sometimes forgotten the words themselves but they do remember the feelings.
When I am gone (I have been thinking about that a lot recently too) I want people to remember how I made them feel. Nobody will remember what I said, most of it is drivel anyway. And I am sure nobody will really remember what I did. Unless it is when they are reminiscing about Real Housewives of Miami/Beverley Hills/New Jersey. But what I would really like people to remember about me is how I made them feel.
Surely that is the most important thing isn’t it?
And imagine how the world would be if we all lived by that same code. She is a wise woman that Maya Angelou.
Don’t you agree?
The full quote for the one above is here (and so true about the Christmas lights!!):
I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life. I’ve learned that making a “living” is not the same thing as making a “life.” I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back. I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one. I’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn. I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel
She also said this:
If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain
Isn’t that a great philosophy?
What would yours be?
Post Script: How sad that a few hours after I published this post it was announced that Maya Angelou had died aged 86. What an extraordinary woman who will be missed. And who will undoubtedly be remembered for how she made people feel.