Anxiety increasing? Here’s some tips

I have felt my anxiety increasing recently so knowing how to keep it, and my mental health in check during self isolation or social distancing has been as important to me as worrying about keeping my physical health in check.

In all the news stories and updates I have watched over the past few weeks (and trust me I have watched hours) I haven’t seen much about how to keep our mental health and well being in check, just how we need to keep a safe distance from the person next to us in the queue, cough into our elbows and sanitise our hands.  Nobody is talking about the growing wave of anxiety that is beginning to spread through all of us.  The feelings of isolation, panic, general anxiety increasing, worry about finances, our loved ones, and how on earth we are going to get through the next few weeks and months when our world is increasingly becoming the four walls of our home have ramped up a level

Which is why I have put together the following list of things I think might help over the coming weeks.  I am no expert, I can’t help on how to how to entertain and educate your children I am afraid.  Despite having had three of my own I am no expert on such matters and to be brutally honest I am not worrying about those things, because that brings me to my first point about how to keep your mental health in check:

Don’t take on other people’s worries

It was Monday morning this week when I had to have a serious talk to myself about just what I was worrying about.  The fact I was worrying about other people and how they would juggle work, caring for elderly relatives, schooling their children etc.  I think this makes me an empath and I really had to tell myself to stop.   We can’t take on everybody else’s worry, we can only worry about our own and, trust me, once you make that realisation it makes a huge difference.   I have had to tell myself that I dont have to worry about redundancies as I dont have a job, I am my own person.  I am not in a high risk group (though my daughter is since she is pregnant).  We have space for three of us to now be working from home and we have food in the fridge.  Most importantly of all we have a stack of loo rolls because we have always bought them in packs of 48 from Bookers (buy 24 get 24 free, for a tenner is our kind of bargain and we have done it for years).  So there is no need for me to share photos of shelves devoid of loo roll in supermarkets, because as much as I empathise with those struggling to get them, it isn’t MY issue (and yes I have offered some of our stash to those struggling).

Turn off news alerts

I have news alerts turned on as push notifications on my phone.  Great when things are relatively quiet but earlier this week it was pinging incessantly with news of more people dying and events being cancelled.   I dont need that information immediately.   I probably don’t need that information at all.  I don’t really care about the Euros or the Premier League so to have my quiet afternoon walk interrupted makes no sense and ultimately is just detrimental to my mental health.  Turn them off.   Control when you get you news.

Control your news

Right now we are all soaking up all this information and as we absorb it we are all sponges.  The time will come, very soon, were we can’t absorb anymore and we are going to break.  If other people are controlling the news they intake, don’t keep dumping news on them.  I found myself in getting those news alerts turning to Mr B and saying “another 35 people have died in Italy”.  He doesn’t need to know that.  I don’t need to know that.   Your friends and family probably dont need to know that if you are sharing it on social media.   Be mindful of what you are sharing in case your loved ones are feeling anxious.

Please also make sure that what you are sharing is factual.   There is SO much information out there we need to make sure what we are sharing is from trusted sources.  I am only taking medical information from the NHS website, and news from the BBC

Limit your intake of the news too if you can.  It really makes a big difference if you stick to just watching the news once a day.

Write things down

I have found this week that writing things down has really helped.  Making a list of things to do (mostly consists of cancelling hotels and getting refunds on tickets) has really helped me with the overwhelm this week and to feel I am getting some control back.  I have also found this quite therapeutic too.  If you like to write, do it. Not for anybody to see, but to get it out of your head. Come back to it, burn it, it doesnt matter, but get it out of your head

Keep in touch with your friends

Check in with them regularly.  DM the people on instagram who you have never talked to before but whose content you really love.  Comment on the post that makes you laugh.  Spreading the love and positive stuff is crucial at the moment.   I have checked in with friends regularly and even arranged for a few surprises to be posted to them as a bit of a virtual hug.  I think our feelings of being isolated can only get worse as this continues so talk to friends, even if it is only sending a silly gif via WhatsApp, you will make the recipient smile and feel they’re not alone.

Call them up, even though it will turn out to be the worst time and you feel guilty for calling. Because you shouldn’t feel guilty and your friend will giggle about it after.

Mr B once called a friend in New Zealand as they hadn’t spoken for a while and it was time for a catch up. He thought he’d got it right, timing his call for 8am. He’d got it wrong. It was shortly before 6 and Pete thought someone had died.

After a couple of seconds, it was like they’d never been apart and the call descended into farce and name-calling – a sure sign of a close friend.

That’s what we need right now – good friends being friends to each other.

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