It is all too easy these days to feel the need to blame people. In fact whole industries have been built up around the idea that “where there is blame there is a claim”.
I have sat this weekend in shock as events have unfolded where somebody feels to blame for something or has taken the blame and found they can’t live with the consequences.
On Friday I was quick to fire off a Tweet saying that “this prank call isn’t so funny now is it?” as the news broke the nurse who had transferred the call had apparently taken her own life.
I then regretted that decision when I realised how they must be feeling.
Those DJs are beside themselves. They blame themselves for her death. They feel the world is blaming them for her death. The nurse appears (and I am speculating of course as it is all I can do) to have blamed herself for falling for the prank. For being so silly as to believe it was the Queen. She feels shame for the hospital maybe, for permitting details about Kate’s well being to be divulged. Who knows the specifics but I think we know by her actions that she blamed herself.
A tragic end to what was a prank. A bit of a laugh. Something to make a radio show. The DJs didn’t mean for that to happen. I remember listening to DJs making similar calls. Some DJs almost made a career out of it. Look at Beadle’s About. Look at Noel Edmonds. Candid Camera even. Prank calls. Secret camera shows where people are made to look a bit silly. All to make a bit of entertainment.
That is what the DJs were doing at the time.
Their interview today shows them blaming themselves. Do they blame the radio station for allowing it to be aired? Who knows. Do they feel the entire online community of Facebook and Twitter are blaming them?
Where does blaming people get us? Nowhere and it has to stop.
As this story was unfolding over the weekend I read last night of the parents “of the schoolgirl found in France with her teacher who cannot be named for legal reasons” It appeared that they too had attempted to take their own lives. With overdoses and had been rushed to hospital by ambulance.
Blaming themselves for not spotting the signs that their daughter was in that relationship? Is their daughter blaming them for the relationship ending? It is not my place to speculate on the specifics of that family but I can only imagine how it might have been had it been me.
We feel we have to blame. Somebody has to be to blame. It has to be somebody’s fault. It can’t be a tragic sequence of events. We can’t just slip on some ice and brush ourselves off. We have to blame the business that owns that bit of pavement or the council. We can’t run into the back of somebody without being blamed for a whiplash injury and compensation of thousands being demanded.
Where there is blame there is a claim. Please let it be no more lives.