Yep. Apparently so. If you are fat you cannot be either beautiful or successful.
Let me explain. I saw a good friend of mine this week as she came to my house straight from a meeting at school where she had been discussing one of her children with the Deputy Head. The above words actually came out of the Deputy Head’s mouth.
“well if you are fat you can’t be beautiful and nobody who is fat will ever be successful”.
From a Deputy Head of a school full of children.
I was. Am. Incensed. I am livid. If you cannot be fat and beautiful ergo only skinny is beautiful. Is that correct? Is it? Not on my sodding watch it isn’t.
Healthier, yes. Less likely to have a heart attack? Maybe. But less beautiful? Sod the sod off and when you get their lady sod off some more.
Yes, I suppose we are all entitled to our opinion and her opinion might be that beautiful people are only people who are skinny. I get that. Beauty being in the eye of the beholder and all that. But to tell that to children? To teenagers growing up in an image obsessed society? No no no.
What on earth are we doing to impressionable teenagers if we tell them that they are only beautiful if they are skinny? That they will only be successful if they aren’t above a size 12? Well there is no point those slightly larger teens sitting their GCSEs next summer then, is there? They are never going to be successful, never going to make anything of themselves, simply because they are slightly heavier than 10 other people in their class.
What utter utter garbage.
I am fat. I put my hand up to that. I am a size 20 on top, 18 on the bottom. I have never been skinny. Ever. I was 11 stone at 12. However, I am vaguely successful. Got a house. Got a husband. Got three healthy kids. Got a bit of money in the bank. Okay it’s not as much as I would like and by day three of the month I am living on my overdraft, but hey, aren’t we all? I have a mildly successful blog. Have been relatively successful on the job front in the past. All whilst being a lard arse.
So what are you going to say to that lady deputy head? Am I the exception that proves the rule? Of course I am not. Am I beautiful? Well I am not so arrogant as to say I am, who would say that about themselves? But they don’t use my face to make ugly biscuits so I must be sort of all right.
And who are you to judge that anyway Mrs? Hmmm? Who are you to say that anybody else is or isnt beautiful? Are you? I haven’t had the pleassure of meeting you so I can’t tell but you are not going to appearing on the front page of Vogue anytime soon I suspect so I am assuming in the eyes of the media you are not beautiful. But does that matter? Of course it doesn’t.
So why are you telling children this rubbish? It’s damaging. Very very damaging. You are perpetuating the myth that only skinny people are beautiful and successful and that is dangerous. It only takes a sensitive child to hear that and you set off a whole life time of eating disorders.
I suggest you invite Natasha Devon into your school because by God your children are going to need it if you carry this on. Tasha teaches self esteem to students in a great initiative called Body Gossip. Here is a link to the Education Programme teaching students to be confident and “Be You Tiful” no matter what their shape or size.
And until then. Please, I beg you, shut up.
Dawn French. Slightly larger lady. Beautiful AND successful.
Jo Brand. Slightly larger lady. She is beautiful AND successful
Anne Widdecombe. Slightly larger lady. Okay some might say she is not beautiful but I am sure people that know her would say she is lovely AND she is successful.
Marilyn Monroe compared to today’s skinny models would be deemed to be larger, are you telling me she wasn’t beautiful? No. Of course not.
Why do we have keep judging people on their dress size? Why is that a measure of beauty or success? It truly isn’t.
So be quiet at the back.
Fat bottomed girls you make the rockin’ world go round
Don’t mess with Brian May on this one
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