God I hate this film. And I haven’t even seen it. I hated the books and I hate that we now can’t move for having it rammed down our throats. Twinnings made a tea (but have since back tracked after a huge furore), Tesco are selling dressing gowns, Walmart in the US is selling a gift basket that comes with handcuffs.
Can we all just calm the hell down please?
The book was awful. It was badly written and not about sex at all. It’s about control. The lead character, Christian Gray, has a warped view of the world, and of sex in particular. His first sexual encounter was as a child with a friend of his mum’s. Ana, the lead female, is a virgin when she meets Christian so this is all she knows. She gets suckered in to thinking this is what a relationship is.
Being ordered to sleep for 8 hours a night.
Being given a computer so he can email her and check up on her
Tracking her phone
Insisting she eats everything on her plate and eats a balanced diet.
If those were “rules” as set out in a contract that your best mate casually mentioned her new boyfriend had asked her to agree to and sign what would you be saying to her?
Exactly, you would be telling her to drop the weirdo and get the hell out of there.
Oh and here’s the killer: she can’t look him the eyes.
Hello? What? The man you are having a relationship with? In love with? And you can’t look him in the eyes?
Oh and don’t bother with anything other than “Sir” or “Mr Grey” . Do me a favour? What sort of girl agrees to that?
One who is being manipulated, stalked and abused. That’s who.
That is not sex, or a loving relationship, not at all.
And I am sick to the back teeth of this film and all the related crap that is being peddled because of it. WH Smiths no longer sells “top shelf magazines”, but you can’t move for stands displaying this book and related crud.
This letter from Miriam Grossman is exactly what I wanted to say in this post today:
It is spot on.
This film is dangerous.
And not about sex. Not in the slightest, it is about manipulation and control.
You want a film about sex? Go and watch 9 1/2 weeks. Now that’s a film about sex.
This, this is just a bandwagon being jumped on