Have I ever introduced myself to you as Tan? Have you EVER heard me call myself that? Has anybody around me ever called me that?
Somebody did once but it was the last thing she said for a while.
My name is not Tan. I hate it. My real name, if you must use it, is Tanya. I would prefer you use “T”. I sign off all emails T. I introduce myself now as T. I have even been known in some circles to introduce myself as “Mummy”, I have not, and will not, ever use Tan.
So what possessed somebody on Monday morning to email me and introduce himself to me with the line “Hi Tan, I wonder if you could …. “.
Who told him my name was Tan? Nobody. So why did he do it? What sort of person shortens another person’s name without knowing if they like it or not.
I know an Edward who has always been an Edward. He has never been Ed, or Ted, Teddy or Eddie. Nobody ever calls him anything other than Edward. Same with a guy I worked with in the nineties called Charles. Always Charles, never Charlie (and he was married to a Diana (not those two) who was never Di, always Diana).
My eldest is called Caity. Funny spelling. But short for Caitlin. I wanted her to be called Katy but knew if we made it short for Catherine she would be called Cathy and we wanted Katy. Going for Caitlin ensured she would never be Cathy, and always Caity. But nobody calls her Cait. Cabface, yes, Cait no.
My preferred breakfast DJ is called Christian, he is not Chris.
I have friends called Emma and Deborah and it would never occur to me to call them Em or Debbie until I had them use those names, or sign off their emails that way.
Shortening somebody else’s name to something they might not like is downright bloody rude.
So if you do it. Please stop. The person hearing it is likely planning your untimely demise in their head.
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