There was talk in the press last week that it is, on average, seven weeks into a relationship before one party utters those three all important words.
I was quite shocked at that. I thought it would be much sooner. We seem to love everything these days (well I certainly do!).
But are they really important to say?
Do you need to hear “I love you” from your partner on a daily basis or is it better that you just know?
I genuinely couldn’t tell you the last time I told Mr B that I loved him. But I am fairly certain he knows that I do. And vice versa.
Children are different, I think they need to hear it. And my three hear it all the time, bedtime, on the end of texts, as they go out the door to work or as I drop them off at school. It is generally the last thing I tell them. That or that I am proud of them.
But I don’t say it to Mr B. I think about him when I am out and buy things for him that I think he might like or need. I try and do things that mean he doesn’t have to. take him a cup of tea / do things so he doesn’t have to. I show him that I love him. And again, vice versa. He might turn up with a bunch of flowers, call me just to see how I am in the middle of the day or book a surprise dinner.
All those things mean so much more to me that just hearing him say those three words, possibly because he feels he has to, or should or as some kind of “well I always end a phone call with, I don’t really think about it”
But what do you think? Do you need to hear it?